Tam Pham

A little bit about me:

I love bringing fascinating humans together. Some of my favorite gatherings to host are friend retreats, movie nights, improv jams, writing retreats, board game nights, dinner parties, and picnics. I also host gatherings professionally for Catalyst, bringing together fascinating Toronto entrepreneurs through themed dinners, fireside chats, workshops, behind the scenes tours, and fun socials.

I love helping people grow into the best versions of themselves. I find joy in asking insightful questions to help them become more self-aware of who they are, what they want, and how to actually make that happen. I find meaning in gifting books, making introductions, sending audio/video messages, and doing whatever I can to be of service.

I love pushing myself out of my comfort zone and doing things that scare me. This mindset led me to try stand up comedy, pole dancing, Salsa and Bachata, drop out of school, write two books helping young professionals with networking and landing their dream internship, speak in front of 4,000 high school students, move to a new country (San Francisco ✈️ Toronto), go to therapy and practice loving myself, dating women who I thought were "out of my league," traveling solo to places like South Africa and Thailand, and train to become a nationally ranked chess expert.

What I look for in a friend and romantic partner: kindness, growth mindset, curiosity, range, and good energy (we need to be on the same wavelength).

Popular Articles:

How I Choose What Hobbies to PursueMy Plan to Make Friends From Scratch In a New Country Introducing My Kind of People: The BAMBU Tribe Yearly Reflections in 2018, 2017, 2016, and 2015How a Life Coach Changed My LifeLove, Meaning, Calm: My Notes from School of Life Conference 2019We Started With A Napkin and Ended Up With An Nintendo WiiHow To Easily Have Great Conversations With Anyone You MeetHow To Get Strangers To Like You Before They Meet You

Quotes I love:

"You are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with." ― Jim Rohn

"What you seek is seeking you." ― Rumi

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." ― Theodore Roosevelt

“i do not want to have you
to fill the empty parts of me
i want to be full on my own

i want to fill so complete
i could light a whole city
and then
i want to have you
cause the two of
us combined
could set
it on fire”
― Rupi Kaur

"You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future." ― Steve Jobs

"Remember when you wanted what you currently have now." ― Unknown

"What would this look like if it were easy?" ― Tim Ferriss

"What nobody tells people who are beginners – and I really wish someone had told this to me ... is that all of us who do creative work, we get into it because we have good taste.

But there is this gap. For the first couple years you make stuff, and it's just not that good. It's trying to be good, it has potential, but it's not. But your taste, the thing that got you into the game, is still killer. And your taste is why your work disappoints you. A lot of people never get past this phase. They quit. Most people I know who do interesting, creative work went through years of this. We know our work doesn't have this special thing that we want it to have.

We all go through this. And if you are just starting out or you are still in this phase, you gotta know it's normal and the most important thing you can do is do a lot of work. Put yourself on a deadline so that every week you will finish one story. It is only by going through a volume of work that you will close that gap, and your work will be as good as your ambitions. And I took longer to figure out how to do this than anyone I've ever met. It's gonna take awhile. It's normal to take awhile. You've just gotta fight your way through." ― Ira Glass

"The best way to predict the future is to create it." ― Abraham Lincoln

Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy -- the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light." ― Brené Brown

"If a person’s behavior doesn’t make sense to you, it is because you are missing a part of their context. It’s that simple." - Devon Price

"One day, you and everyone you love will die. And beyond a small group of people for an extremely brief period of time, little of what you say or do will ever matter. This is the Uncomfortable Truth of life. And everything you think or do is but an elaborate avoidance of it. We are inconsequential cosmic dust, bumping and milling about on a tiny blue speck. We imagine our own importance. We invent our purpose—we are nothing." ― Mark Manson

"We are not here to take part. We are here to take over." ― Conor McGregor

"What a performance. Didn't just do it. He did it flawlessly." Joe Rogan on Conor McGregor at UFC 205

"Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you." ― Marianne Williamson

“When you choose to live your life in the arena, you are going to get your ass kicked. You will fall and you will know failure.” ― Brene Brown

"Chase the dream, love the journey." ― Unknown

“Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about un-becoming everything that isn’t really you, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place.” ― Paul Coelho

"Sometimes, when we’re lying together, I look at her and I feel dizzy with the realization that here is another distinct person from me, who has memories, origins, thoughts, feelings that are different from my own. That tension between familiarity and mystery meshes something strong between us. Even if one builds a life together based on trust, attentiveness and mutual support, I think that it’s important that a partner continues to surprise." ― Barack Obama